Dear Tracy, I’m 31 years old, not married and no prospects in sight. I’m not hideously ugly but I just can’t seem to fight the right guy. Every guy I meet ends up being a cheater, or not ready to commit, or someone who still wants to hang out with the boys every day. I’m too old for the dating games and that’s why I am coming to you for some advice. What in the world am I going to do? I’m not getting any younger.
It doesn’t matter if you are 34 or 21 or even 17, the rules are the same. You are never going to find a man until you are able to be happy with yourself. You have to be a whole person and that is the single mistake that almost every girl makes. They look and look but they never for once thought about spending the same amount of time on themselves. It’s amazing to me how dependent we are on men and the concept of being in a relationship.
SHAME ON ALL OF US FOR THAT! So here is my advice to you ….. stop looking for Mr. Right and start making yourself a better person. Make a commitment to change your life and in the end, love will find you.
You must do things to improve your life. Make a list of all the things you wished you could do and do them!!! Teach yourself a foreign language. Take a pottery class. Travel to an exotic place such as Rome or Greece. If you don’t have a lot of money not to worry, there are things you can do on a budget. You could even volunteer at a charity. There is nothing more fulfilling than charity work. What you do to improve your life really doesn’t matter, as long as you do something. The more you do for yourself, the better person you become. The better person you become the more attractive you become to others. If you want to meet the perfect man, then you must be perfect for yourself! Of course, that isn’t possible but you can sure try and make it happen. Work out, learn how to cook better, take a class in flower arranging. There is so much you can do and it doesn’t even matter what you do to improve your life as long as you are trying to do something.
I can’t say this enough … You must take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. You have to be a whole person to find a healthy and happy relationship. When the time comes for you to start dating again you won’t have to play hard to get, because you’ll be so busy living your own life, you will be hard to get and of course, that will make you more attractive to a man.